The Art of Being a Trustee: Giving Without Expecting
You Are a Helper of the Universe
Being a trustee means recognising that we are not the ultimate doers—we are simply channels through which the universe flows. The task, the energy, the person, the moment—it’s all orchestrated by something far greater than our personal plans.
When we act as trustees, we offer help not as ours, but as something through us. We give, not from ownership, but from trust. We don’t carry the burden of who responds, who thanks, or who returns the favor—because we are not trading. We are simply expressing.
And when this awareness settles in, helping no longer drains us. It nourishes.
When Help Isn't Returned
Still, we are human. And disappointment happens.
Many of us have felt hurt when those we once supported didn’t show up for us. We may have felt ignored, betrayed, or taken for granted. That’s when blame often creeps in—toward others, or quietly toward ourselves.
But with time, it becomes clear: the root of our pain wasn’t in the act of helping—it was in the expectation we unknowingly attached to it.
When we begin to examine our relationships deeply, we see patterns. If the foundation of the bond was giving—genuine, free, light—it uplifts us. If it was built on a hidden need or hope to receive, it creates pressure and pain.
True trusteeship invites us to choose relationships with awareness:
Am I here to give, or am I secretly hoping to get something back?
Yoga as the Grounding Practice
It’s not always easy to live like a trustee. In fact, many of us can give freely to others, but feel anxious, heavy, or scared when it comes to our own tasks—our careers, challenges, or healing.
This is where the deeper work begins.
Practices like Amrit Vela Yoga—the quiet early morning connection with the Self and the Universe—can bring strength and clarity like nothing else. Through meditation and breathwork at this sacred time, we build the muscle of trust. Not in people, but in the Source.
Slowly, this connection becomes so strong that asking others for help starts to fade. We receive inner power, direction, even answers—sometimes, uncannily, the very people we needed help from reach out on their own. As if the universe heard.
Because it always does.
The Neuroscience of Letting Go
From a neuroscience lens, expectations and attachments activate the limbic system — the emotional center of the brain. When our help isn’t acknowledged or reciprocated, this system can fire off stress responses: the heart rate increases, cortisol levels rise, and the body tenses in self-protection.
But when we practice trusteeship—when we give with trust and no demand—the prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain responsible for mindfulness, compassion, and long-term thinking) becomes more active. This shift helps us regulate emotional impulses and see the bigger picture.
Practices like deep breathing, meditation, and especially early morning contemplative silence increase parasympathetic activity, calming the nervous system. They also enhance oxytocin and serotonin production—neurochemicals associated with connection, trust, and emotional resilience.
In simple terms:
When we let go of expectation, our nervous system relaxes.
When we give without ownership, the body feels safe and supported.
When we become trustees, our biology aligns with peace.
Give from Wholeness, Not for Fulfillment
Being a trustee is not about closing our hearts. It’s about opening them wider—to life, to mystery, to the silent intelligence that guides all things.
When we help without holding, love without weighing, give without grasping—we set ourselves free.
So the next time you feel unappreciated or let down, pause. Breathe. Ask yourself:
“Was I giving from fullness or from need?”
And if the answer was need—that’s okay. It’s a learning. A soft nudge toward deeper self-trust.
The more we align with our role as trustees, the lighter we become.
And in that lightness, life begins to flow—with grace, ease, and a quiet joy that needs nothing in return.
✨ Have you ever experienced the power of giving without expectation?
Or have you been hurt by unmet expectations after helping someone?
We’d love to hear your reflections.
Share your story in the comments below or write to us at Glitz.arogya@gmail.com. Your journey could inspire someone else walking the same path.
This blog is written straight from my experience, with the hope that it reaches your heart.
Warmly,
Amulya Parmesh
Holistic Therapist
Join Glitz Arogya and begin a journey of authentic living — through the Art of Witnessing.
About the Author :
Amulya Parmesh, MSc Psychology (BPS), YCB-certified Yoga Teacher & Evaluator, and Holistic Therapist (CI, PRT), is the founder of the Glitz Arogya Mind-Body Program. She brings a unique blend of scientific understanding and yogic wisdom to her practice. Glitz Arogya is dedicated to empowering individuals to achieve holistic well-being through integrated mind-body therapies.
