From “Log Kya Kahenge” to “Main Kya Mehsoos Kar Raha Hoon”
Shifting from external validation to inner truth through Compassionate Inquiry
“Log kya kahenge?”
If you grew up in India, you’ve likely heard this phrase countless times.
It shows up when:
- You choose a career different from the family’s expectations.
- You want to speak about your emotions openly.
- You make a life decision that doesn’t match “society’s standards.”
Over time, “log kya kahenge” becomes more than a question. It becomes a lens through which we see ourselves — often silencing our true emotions and needs.
The Cost of Living for Others’ Approval
When we live by “what will people say,” we learn to:
- Suppress our real feelings (“I can’t tell anyone I’m struggling.”)
- Hide our authentic self to fit in.
- Carry guilt for choices that make us happy but upset others.
This constant external validation-seeking creates stress, shame, and emotional disconnection.
Shifting the Question: From “Them” to “Me”
What if, instead of asking “log kya kahenge,” we asked:
“Main kya mehsoos kar raha hoon?”
(“What am I feeling right now?”)
This simple shift is transformational.
It invites you to:
- Pause and check in with yourself.
- Honor your emotions rather than dismissing them.
- Reconnect with your inner truth — your real wants, needs, and boundaries.
How Compassionate Inquiry Helps Make This Shift
In my program, The Art of Witnessing using Compassionate Inquiry, we explore:
- Where this “log kya kahenge” conditioning began. Often, it’s rooted in family or cultural survival patterns.
- What emotions you suppress to maintain others’ approval.
- How your body reacts when you ignore your truth (tension, heaviness, anxiety).
- How to gently reconnect with your own voice — without guilt or shame.
Through deep listening, compassionate questioning, and body awareness, CI helps you discover:
“My emotions are valid. My voice matters. I can honor myself while navigating my culture with awareness.”
A Gentle Reminder
Choosing yourself does not mean rejecting your culture or family. It means bringing balance — respecting others while not abandoning yourself.
Final Thoughts
Healing in the Indian context often means breaking free from silent rules — like “don’t talk about your feelings” or “keep everyone happy no matter what.”
Compassionate Inquiry offers a safe space to unlearn these patterns, listen to your inner truth, and live with more authenticity — without losing your roots.
If this resonates with you, I invite you to experience my program:
The Art of Witnessing using Compassionate Inquiry — where your emotions are seen, heard, and honored.
With compassion,
Amulya Parmesh
Join Glitz Arogya and begin a journey of authentic living — through the Art of Witnessing.
About the Author :
Amulya Parmesh, MSc Psychology (BPS), YCB-certified Yoga Teacher & Evaluator, and Holistic Therapist (CI, PRT, CBT), is the founder of the Glitz Arogya Mind-Body Program. She brings a unique blend of scientific understanding and yogic wisdom to her practice. Glitz Arogya is dedicated to empowering individuals to achieve holistic well-being through integrated mind-body therapies.
